Where do you draw the line between forgiving yourself for who you are and seeking change? At which point does one recognise that forgiving oneself is not bringing about the desired effect? Those of us with self-awareness are constantly finding the faults – some bigger than others – yet we are constantly bombarded with two schools of thought, two diametrically opposite antidotes that promise a cure. ON one hand we are told you are in perpetual sin, and that change is necessary for salvation. On the other you are told that imperfection is perfection, and that your faults define your experience and growth,
A lot of rehabilitation programs (for drugs, alcohol, etc) do not believe in a conscious effort to change yourself. The harder you try, the harder you will fall it seems. From experience these seems accurate. What they do preach is accepting who you are and that mistakes are inevitable – the idea being that through that acceptance you build self esteem that by nature rejects any kind of self harm. You trick yourself, in a sense.
But what if you’re aware of the trick? Is it possible that in some cases you accept and refuse to build form there?
