Following on from my last post – I finally figured out how to "get a grip" and take the pressure (and the expectations) off the unassuming 23 year old charmer: date another guy at the same time. Although 'juggling' sounds somewhat unseemly, the more I delved into both relationships simultaneously the more I was amazed at how much sense it made.
Let me rewind briefly. Only hours before the date I had with Assad, I had met at a friend's BBQ a Russian guy, George. George had playfully asked when we'd go on our first date and, having felt a slight attraction to him ab initio we exchanged numbers and set the date for Friday. It was only then that I hurried into a cab back home to start preparing dinner for Assad.
After swooning for 5 days over Assad, I eventually mustered the will to go out with George, not expecting at all to end up having any fun. In truth, we had a fantastically entertaining evening at my favourite brasserie and took a walk to wild jazz club tucked away in Belgravia to finish it off. I was still all over Assad, but George's company and energy was unmistakably positive. After saying good night, we arranged a date for mimosas at my place the next morning which he attended punctually.
Over the next few days I came to realise that I was incredibly comfortable with George. Although I find Assad probably more along the lines of what I tend to be interested in physically, George seems both interesting and interested. And just as balance of power between those two started to shift towards George, Assad jumped back into the picture with a vengeance. We spent another couple of days together and, though we had an excellent time and I enjoyed his company very thoroughly, I was much more relaxed and in perspective when I dropped him off at the station.
Tango for three may not be the easiest logistically, but you certainly get the best practice and the most flavour. Now I have two pretty amazing people in my life that I'm not hurling concern, doubt or teenage infatuation towards just because they balance each other off pretty well. Of course, at some point I may have to make a choice. But by then, I will have settled into a comfortable spot with whomever it turns out to be and it won't matter.
